CONVOLUTED CORKSCREW OF LIFE
I was teaching high school in Colorado in the late 1990’s. Earlier, when I left Greensboro, North Carolina for the mountains of the west, my mother and I would have many chats on the phone. On one call, my mother said to me, “You should think about finding someone to settle down with. Most of my friends’ daughters are married. And when you do settle down, do not name a child after me.”
You see, my mother’s name was Duilla (Do-wella). Her mother created the name and really liked it. Mom, on the other hand, struggled with it. Although she enjoyed its uniqueness and never considered changing it to her middle name (which was Idell) or an easier name, people never got her name right. When someone asked for her name, she would have to spell it a few times, then pronounce it even more. It was comical to see the mail she would receive and the interpretations of her name, and to watch people grapple with something so unfamiliar.
In a later conversation, I told mom I had a new love in my life—a kitten! Since she did not desire a child to have her namesake, the kitten was named Duilla.
Duilla (the kitten) was a beautiful Tortoiseshell kitten and a wonderful companion while I completed graduate school. And when I moved. And when I started teaching high school. And when I met John, my husband. And when I moved again. And when John and I married. And when I change careers. And when Duilla (the kitten) played “punching bag” with my stepson’s sweet little face (no claws, thankfully)! As Kyle gasped and tried to catch his breath and composure, we were surprised and laughed at what we saw. Kyle caught his breath and laughed too! Not the introduction we were hoping for, but they began to trust each other after the one-sided boxing match, which, we learned, cats do because they are insatiably curious and use this technique as their perfect way to investigate something without coming too close to it. It sure startled her prey that day!
Duilla had this habit that if I lingered too long in bed, she would take her paws and make a melodious sound above my head on the metal blinds. If she wanted something, she would walk over and across us as we slept, and she would even sleep around my head and on my chest. She would stand on John’s chest and stare at him until he relinquished his reading or napping to acquiesce to her desires. And one evening, we opened the back door to let her explore outside in the yard as she had so many times before.
That night in my dreamlike state I heard a cat crying. I was too tired to get up and see what was happening and John was fast asleep. In the fog of sleepiness, I figured it was a neighborhood cat fight and fell back asleep, unaware that sweet Duilla was still exploring the quiet of the night.
In the morning, John came into the bedroom and awakened me. He said, “Jeanne, I am so sorry to tell you this. Duilla was hit by a car, and she is no longer alive.” My heart broke. I felt guilty. I felt responsible. I felt like I was a horrible feline parent. How did I not know? Why didn’t I get up and check?
I stayed home and held my cat. John and I said a prayer and buried her in the garden bed. I missed her meowing. I missed her waking me up in the morning. I missed changing her litterbox. I missed her soul and her companionship and the way she made us all laugh. Through many of my life events I held her and cried. I also celebrated many joys of life and milestones with her.
My good friend, Rob, who I taught high school with for many years, went to work, and shared with a dear friend of mine in the history department that Duilla died. She had visited Litchfield beach with my parents and me and visited them at their home in Greensboro, too. Karen was stunned and heartbroken. She said to Rob, “Oh my goodness! Jeanne’s mom died! Where is she? What can I do?” Rob chuckled under his breath and, as composed as he could be, said, “Karen! Not her mother! Duilla, her CAT!” Karen was unsettled; Rob was tittered; and I laughed at the convoluted corkscrew of events that life offers.
The 13th-century poet, Jalaluddin Rumi, once wrote, "The cure for the pain is in the pain,” suggesting that healing from emotional or psychological pain requires facing and understanding it, rather than avoiding or numbing it. By embracing the pain and feeling it deeply, one can gain valuable insights and move towards healing. In feeling our own pain, we touch a place inside of us that is tender, empathetic, and kind—and in so doing, we remember our connection to our greatest good.
Perhaps you or someone close to you has recently received a life-threatening diagnosis, your relationship with your spouse or beloved partner is in chaos, or, like me, you have a parent or a loved one who recently made her transition. Or maybe you have felt anguish, outrage, or despair over the recent socio-political developments within the United States.
When we override our experience of suffering by denying it or sublimating it—or if we simply try to get it to pass as quickly as possible—we close a window that offers potential for opening us to our greatest good. When the molecules of feeling move freely inside of us, an alchemical shift occurs. We can change the way we experience life.
There is a phrase that yoga practitioners like to use: Less Duhkha (“bad” space; restriction; unease)! More Sukha (good space; happiness; ease)! Yoga offers us tools to alchemize our energy from restrictive or bound to experience the “sweetness of life.” We can do this through mindful awareness, acceptance, compassion, Kriya yoga (discipline, self-study and surrender to the divine), yoga, and recognition of true Self.
As many of you know, my mother, Duilla, died this past January. She was a great purveyor of humor, love, and joy. Humor helps the heart heal. So do close friends and family, a sunrise or a sunset, a favorite dessert, a ceremony to let go of the Dukkha, or a continual reminder to embrace the Sukha.
Namaste,
Jeanne
YOGA FOR ONE EARTH, ONE HEALTH
"Yoga for One Earth, One Health" is the theme for 2025 INTERNATIONAL YOGA DAY, emphasizing yoga’s holistic impact on well-being and sustainability. Move your body, deepen your breath, and relax your mind as you embark on a journey to connect the body, mind, and soul in a way that has existed for centuries.
International Yoga Day, celebrated on June 21st each year since 2014, is a universally celebrated occasion that highlights the significance of yoga in advancing physical, mental, and spiritual well-being. This day encourages all individuals of every age group and background to embrace the practice of yoga to enhance health and harmony in their lives. Beyond the benefits, the celebration also fosters unity and mindfulness across communities worldwide. It serves as a reminder of yoga’s timeless wisdom and its ability to connect us with the environment as well as ourselves, which inspires a peaceful lifestyle in the fast-paced world.
Here are six ways to celebrate the theme of INTERNATIONAL YOGA DAY 2025:
Meditate on birds. John and I enjoy sitting outside overlooking our pond and birdwatching. We do this any time between sunrise and through the gloaming of the evening. Birdwatching offers an opportunity to awaken the senses. Our heads turn as we hear a birdsong or see movement. We sit quietly and still, observing and sensing our environment without judgment, criticism, analysis, or conversation as the birds display their magnificence through their color, song, flight, interaction, relationship, and stillness. This practice allows us to connect to our kinder, gentler selves and reminds us to embrace gentleness, slow down, and enjoy each moment as it unfolds.
Take a walking meditation with bare feet. Ditch the shoes and experience the sensations of your skin on the earth, the softness of the grass, the warmth or coolness of the sand or dirt beneath your feet. Bring awareness to each step and to the many muscles that are working to lift and place each foot. Walking meditation is an opportunity to slow down and luxuriate in the smallest detail of a process that we usually take for granted.
Connect with water. Research shows that spending time in or near lakes, rivers, the ocean, and other “blue spaces” reduces stress and has a positive impact on well-being. Visit your favorite pool, waterpark, hot tub, ocean, creek, pond, or river. Dip your feet in water. Jump in and play! If none of these are accessible to you, enjoy a shower or a bath, or splash your face with water.
Practice yoga outdoors. As mentioned before, enjoy the summer season by practicing outdoors and the gifts of practice within the nurturing embrace of sunshine, wind, water, rain, and earth. For some, summer is fun time to engage in a more vigorous yoga practice; for others, taking a slow flow and balancing the yang of the season with the yin energy through holding poses longer, focusing on breath, and cultivating stillness. Yin energy encourages relaxation and inner peace, which complements the outward-directed energy of yang seasons of spring and summer.
Create an earth mandala. Collect seashells, flowers, sticks, stones, bark, sand, and other natural materials to craft your own mandala design on the beach in your yard. Connect with your environment, express your gratitude, and create something sacred. Then, let it wash away or blow away and invite yourself to connect to impermanence.
Share healthy habits with others. Create a healthy meal. Share it with friends and family and include the recipe so they may replicate it in their own homes. Invite them to attend your yoga classes with Inner Connections Yoga & Wellness at the Waccamaw Recreation Center, Litchfield by the Sea Clubhouse on Thursdays, or on the north end of Pawleys Island on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Schedule a trip to pick your own fruits and vegetables at a local farm and share your bounty with others.
Attuning to the richness of summer not only allows us to experience it more fully, but it also helps us move more gracefully into upcoming seasons and the cycles of nature.
Happy Yoga International Day! Celebrate One Earth, One Health is some way every day!
Cheers!
Jeanne
THE JOY OF JUNE INSPIRED BY YOGA
On this June day the buds in my garden are almost as enchanting as the open flowers. Things in bud bring, in the heat of a June noontide, the recollection of the loveliest days of the year - those days of May when all is suggested, nothing yet fulfilled. - Francis King
June is the month we transition from the season of spring to summer. Sometimes summer brings feelings of overwhelm and scatteredness; it can also be overflowing with optimism, joy, growth, expansion, connection, and love. The practice of yoga invites us to stay balanced and grounded during June as spring turns the corner to welcome June’s joy and summertime fun! It also invites us to grow and bloom where we are and create the life we desire.
This transition from spring to summer occurs gradually but is announced by the arrival of Summer Solstice and International Yoga Day, both falling on Saturday, June 21st, 2025. Practicing yoga indoors helps keep us cool and comfortable but taking our mat outdoors in our favorite, serene natural setting allows us to celebrate the eternal cycle of the seasons.
What rituals can we add to our routine to help us celebrate the transition between spring and summer? Let us embrace the connection of transitional changes between seasons paired with Yoga to elevate our practice and feel more connected with the world around us.
Here’s how:
Cultivate Mindfulness and Presence:
Focus on Breath: Yoga emphasizes breath awareness, which anchors us to the present moment, counteracting the tendency to dwell on the past or worry about the future. The Chandogya Upanishad expresses, “He who has control over his breath also has control over his mind.” Pranayama (breath practice) is designed to reestablish the flow of breath in harmony with the rhythms of the universe. Take a moment outdoors to see the beauty that surrounds you and to breathe with the ocean or a breeze through the trees. Observe your sense of heightened connection and awareness of the present moment through the practice of mindfulness!
Pay Attention to Sensations by practicing AS IS (Awareness of Sensations through Internal Scanning): While you move through yoga postures or take a meditative walk, pay close attention to how bodily sensations enhance your body awareness and foster a deeper connection with the present moment.
Reduce Stress and Anxiety:
Physical Release: Yoga poses, particularly gentle stretches and forward bends, help release physical tension, easing stress and anxiety.
Calm the Nervous System: Yoga practices like slow flow offered in our Yoga Therapeutics classes and deep breathing activate the parasympathetic nervous system, promoting relaxation and a sense of calm.
Enhance Emotional Regulation:
Observe your Emotions: Yoga encourages non-judgmental awareness of thoughts and feelings, helping us develop greater emotional resilience.
Promote Self-Acceptance: Cultivating a mindful approach to yoga helps us accept ourselves and our experiences, leading to greater emotional stability.
Find Grounding and Stability:
Practice Grounding Poses: In the words of John Muir, “When a man plants a tree, he plants himself.” Yoga postures like mountain pose (Tadasana), tree pose (Vrksasana), and the warrior poses connect us to the earth, fostering a sense of stability and grounding. Take off your shoes and connect your feet to the earth! Plant in your garden! Take a meditative walk, observing each step as you take it.
Strengthen the Core: Yoga strengthens core muscles, which support the spine and contribute to a feeling of stability and balance. Work with the pelvic floor and the breath practice of Agni Sara.
Align with the Season:
Adapt Your Practice: In June's warmer weather, opt for gentler practices like Inner Connections Yoga’s Yoga Therapeutics (I & II), and CHAIR Yoga, or modify any Vinyasa practice to reduce intensity.
Embrace Outdoor Practice: Consider practicing yoga outdoors to connect with nature and absorb the positive energy of the ocean and trees. Join our one-hour beach classes on Tuesdays at 8 am and Thursdays at 6 pm, NORTH end Pawleys Island at 2nd and Atlantic beach access (North Causeway. Left on Myrtle. Right on 2nd St., cross Atlantic and park in lot!)
By incorporating these aspects of yoga into your routine, you can cultivate a sense of balance, presence, and well-being, allowing you to fully embrace the joy and vitality of June.
3 Tips for Self-Care for Care Givers on Mother’s Day
Looking for a different way to celebrate Mother’s Day? Here are 3 tips for self-care for care givers on Mother’s Day (mothers, fathers, sisters, friends, aunties, etc.)
1. Practice Yoga (of Course!)
Yoga is a great way to start your Mother’s Day and no matter what you have planned, it will create a foundation of centeredness that will carry you through this holiday. Visit your backyard, favorite park, or the beach. Find a quiet spot and let your body move to the rhythms of your breath. Connect to the nature that surrounds you as you breathe deeply, slowly, and mindfully. Create a flow of your own yoga favorites that opens you up and nurtures your soul.
2. Express Your Gratitude
Mother’s Day is a wonderful chance to notice and celebrate the other moms and/or special women in your life. How can you say thank you to your own mother, or perhaps to someone else in your life who has taken on that role? Perhaps you rely heavily on your “mom friends” for support. What a great day to tell them how grateful you are for all they have done. A simple, handwritten note or a phone call of appreciation can be the best gift on this special day. Even sending an email or text to let them know they matter and they made a difference in your life will make a difference in theirs!
Remember gratitude is a constant state of being. When you awake while all is still quiet, say to yourself, “I am grateful for…” and then as part of a stream of consciousness, let it flow without editing.
Or, try this simple breath-meditation:
Inhale: I welcome happiness
Exhale: I am so grateful
Inhale: I welcome inspiration
Exhale: I am so grateful
Inhale: I welcome love
Exhale: I am so grateful
3. Take a Break
Mother’s Day is a great opportunity to take a break from doing the dishes, folding laundry, running the carpool, checking homework, and doing for others. Step away and take a walk, grab your favorite coffee or dessert, take a bath and use your favorite oils or salts, sit outside and be present in the majesty of the world in which we live. Drink in the things that truly matter in life. Or reflect on the role of the divine feminine in our lives. Spend some time reflecting or journaling about what it means to be a woman and a mother/mentor. You might say a prayer or make an offering to the Goddess Shakti or to the Divine Mother, who represents the feminine energy in the universe. To be a mother is to love fiercely and without bounds. Journal about those things you love and that bring you untethered joy. Celebrate yourself today and every day in some meaningful way!
Enjoy!
Jeanne
BEE INSPIRED
There is so much we love about the month of May! Discover and explore what inspires you.
Singing Bowls in Brookgreen on Tuesday, May 13th! Can you imagine a better time of year to enjoy the beauty of Brookgreen’s blooms as you listen to the sounds of the Tibetan Singing Bowls for an hour? Immerse yourself in the serenity of nature and the ancient art of Tibetan Sound Bowl Meditation. The journey of this unique experience offers a tranquil retreat with gentle melodies and resonant vibrations of Tibetan singing bowls as you are guided into a state of deep relaxation and rejuvenation. Meet at the Time & Fates of Man Sculpture 11:30-12:30 PM on Tuesday, May 13th.
Bees! You probably hear that familiar sound every time you go outside. As bees fly, their wings beat at incredibly high speeds, and it is this rapid movement that generates the buzzing sound we associate with these insects. The wings of a bee can flap approximately 200 times per second! Bees lie at the heart of our survival. They pollinate 1 in 3 bites of food we eat and 80% of the world’s flowering plants. These precious pollinators are essential to the health and prosperity of countless ecosystems. They are cute but not cuddly; they are very hard workers; they produce beeswax which can be used for candles, polishes, and rust prevention, to cosmetic and medicinal uses like lip balm, salves, and even some traditional applications like pottery coatings and art mediums! Not only are they smart, bees are excellent engineers- they seem to have a fundamental knowledge that a hexagon is a stable and efficient shape for their hives.
Flowers! We have all experienced how the wind has been floating flecks of pollen everywhere and now we experience the joy of the journey of pollination—beautiful bursts of colorful fragrant flowers that blanket our communities with life, beauty, and love.
Babies! For the second year at our home, new goslings have been floating around our pond with their parents. Goslings are undeniably cute: small, soft, fluffy with down, playful, and curious. We love their yellow color and their sweet energy. Their large, triangular bills add to their charm, and their parents carefully protect and teach them as we watch them grow.
Hummingbirds and Dragonflies! The sound of hummingbirds excites my soul as my heart skips a beat! My eyes search for these beautiful creatures as I anxiously await a glimpse of their diminutive beauty, dazzling colors, and captivating capabilities of flight. Many spiritual traditions view hummingbirds as messengers of love, lightness, and joy. Their constant movement reflects the importance of adaptability and taking life's changes in stride. Hummingbirds also symbolize freedom and the need to explore new possibilities.
I adore dragonflies because they symbolize important concepts in life: adaptability, transformation, change, and new beginnings. This is largely due to their impressive metamorphosis from aquatic nymph to stunning winged adult. For this reason, dragonflies are strongly linked to renewal, rebirth, and personal growth.
Dragonflies also are considered messengers from the spiritual realm who carry messages from ancestors or spirits, potentially bringing guidance, love, and support from loved ones who have made their transition. In Japan, for example, dragonflies represent the souls of the deceased. Spotting one fluttering by is seen as a sign that a loved one in the spirit world is trying to communicate with you. The Native American Hopi tribe shares similar beliefs, considering dragonflies to be lucky messengers from heaven.
They are also associated with the realm of emotions. Their darting, wavering flight seems to mimic the erratic nature of human feelings. When a dragonfly appears during times of grief, turmoil, or introspection, it may be a reminder to be aware of your thoughts and stay centered in the present moment.
BEACH YOGA! John and I love teaching yoga on Pawleys Island! We appreciate the opportunity to share the peaceful beaches, natural beauty, and historic charm of P.I. with others. We delight in the healing benefits of being embraced by mother nature as the ocean crashes around us, the warm sand cradles us, and the birds fly above. The uneven surface of the sand challenges the body, enhancing core stability and balance. Being so close to the water adds a calmness that deepens our breath and supports an even deeper relaxation and meditation. Each beach session is a rejuvenating escape that nurtures your mind, body, breath, and essence.
Beach Yoga begins Tuesday, May 27th and Thursday, May 29th at 2nd and Atlantic on the north end of Pawleys Island. Classes are $10 and you may use your 10-visit card or pay as you go. Please join us for classes!
Memorial Day! Memorial Day is May 26th and honors those who have died while serving in the military and is a day of remembrance. It is a time of reflection and gratitude, a day dedicated to honoring those who have made the ultimate sacrifice in service to our country. As we remember and reflect on the brave women and men who have given their lives, we can also embrace this day to focus on our own well-being and inner peace. Practicing yoga on Memorial Day is a beautiful way to honor the memory of those who have sacrificed their lives, while also taking time to care for your own mental and physical well-being. We at Inner Connections Yoga & Wellness remind you to set an intention, practice mindful movement, and offer reflective meditation to create a space for healing, gratitude, and inner peace. This Memorial Day, let yoga be a bridge between honoring the past and cultivating a peaceful present.
Reflective Meditation: Either in your home, on the beach, or visiting a memorial, practice reflective meditation. Stand, sit comfortably, or lie down in Savasana (Corpse Pose). Close your eyes, breathe deeply, and allow your body to relax completely. As you rest, reflect on the sacrifices made by service members and send thoughts of peace and gratitude to their families.
Mother’s Day
vintage linens
from Letters from an American
written by Heather Cox Richardson, May 13, 2023
Those of us who are truly lucky have more than one mother. They are the cool aunts, the elderly ladies, the family friends, even the mentors who whip us into shape. By my count, I’ve had at least eight mothers. One of the most important was Sally Adams Bascom Augenstern.
Mrs. A., a widow who had played cutthroat bridge with my grandmother in the 1950s, lived near my family in Maine in the summer. I began vacuuming and weeding and painting for her when I was about 12, but it wasn't long before my time at her house stopped being a job. She was bossy, demanding, sharp as a tack...and funny and thoughtful, and she remembered most of the century. She would sit in her rocking chair by the sunny window in the kitchen, shelling peas and telling me stories while I washed the floor with a hand sponge to spin out the time.
Sally (not Sarah) Bascom was born on December 25, 1903. (That made her almost a full year older than Millard Robinson, a local fisherman who seemed ancient; she loathed that age gap.) She was the oldest of six children and spent her youth taking care of the younger ones. When I once asked her what was the most important historical event in her lifetime, this woman who had lived through the Depression and both world wars answered without hesitation: "the washing machine." It had freed her and her mother from constant laundry. She could finally have some leisure time, which she spent listening to the radio and driving in cars with boys. Because her mother always needed her at home, it was not she, but all her younger siblings, who went to college. By the time Mrs. A. was an adult, she was certain she wanted no part of motherhood.
Mrs. A. never forgave her sister for driving her Model T through a field. She saved aluminum foil not because of WWII, but because of WWI. She supported herself and refused to marry until she met an older man who offered to take her traveling; they had a quickie wedding and set off for Banff, where they looked at mountains and watched the bears pilfer trash.
She destroyed her knees playing tennis, so she would weed the garden by staggering to a lawn chair set up there. She loved snapdragons and nicotiana, veronica and irises and wild roses. After Mr. Augenstern died, she drove herself to and from Florida once a year in a giant old Cadillac with "Arrive Alive" on the license plate holder; she drove like a bat out of hell. She played bridge with terrifying intensity. And she always refused to be seen in public unless she was in a dress with her hair pinned up and her pearls on.
Mrs. A. laughed at me when I fell in love with history and tried to tell her that people changed the world because of their beliefs. "Follow the money, Heather," said the woman whose income depended on her knowledge of the stock market. "Don't pay attention to what they say; pay attention to who's getting the money." I listened. And then I learned as I watched her lose my grandmother's generation and then work to make friends with my mother's generation. And when they, too, died, she set out, in her eighties, to make friends with my generation. Every day was a new day.
Mrs. A. left me her linens, her gardening coat, and this photo of her and her siblings: Frances (who died young), Phyllis, Carlton, Guy, and Nathan. She also left me ideas about how to approach both history and life. I've never met a woman more determined never to be a mother, but I'm pretty sure that plan was one of the few things at which she failed.
Thinking of her, and all the wonderful women like her who mother with or without the title, on this Mother's Day.
MEDITATION FOR ADULTS
People have practiced meditation for thousands of years and it remains one of the most effective ways to cultivate inner peace, clarity, and overall well-being in today’s fast-paced, stressful world. While many believe meditation is primarily for younger individuals or spiritual seekers, people of all ages can benefit from this practice that offers a simple yet profound way to enhance mental and physical health. Numerous scientific studies have demonstrated the positive effects of meditation on the brain and body.
Benefits of a consistent meditation practice:
Supports better health. Meditation lowers blood pressure, enhances cognitive function, and improves emotional well-being.
Reduces stress. Through mindfulness meditation, individuals learn to focus on the present moment, letting go of worries about the past and future. This practice activates the parasympathetic nervous system, promoting relaxation and helping lower cortisol levels, the stress hormone responsible for many health problems.
Enhances concentration and cognitive function. Studies have found that even short daily meditation sessions can improve attention span, memory retention, and critical thinking skills.
Encourages self-awareness, Meditation helps people manage negative emotions such as anger, anxiety, and depression. Regular meditators often report an increased sense of happiness and emotional stability.
Promotes relaxation and sleep. Meditation promotes relaxation, making it easier to fall asleep and stay asleep. Millions of people struggle with sleep disorders, and they are common among adults. Often stress, anxiety, and racing thoughts cause these disturbances in sleep. Meditation helps regulate sleep cycles by promoting relaxation and reducing stress hormones. Adults who practice meditation often report falling asleep more easily and enjoy a deeper, more restorative sleep. Techniques such as guided meditation and deep breathing can significantly improve sleep quality.
Reduces pain. Chronic pain conditions affect millions of people worldwide. Meditation can help reduce the perception of pain by altering brain activity. Mindfulness meditation teaches individuals how to shift their focus away from pain and towards a state of acceptance and relaxation. Many adults suffer from arthritis, back pain, and other chronic conditions and meditation and yoga can help improve overall well-being without the need for excessive medication.
Enhances brain function and slows down cognitive deterioration. Studies indicate that adults who meditate regularly experience improved memory.
Provides a natural way to cultivate peace of mind. Many adults struggle with feelings of loneliness, anxiety, and depression, especially after retirement or the loss of loved ones. Meditation enhances health, happiness, and resilience and helps adults cope with life’s changes.
Meditation is a powerful and accessible tool that offers countless benefits for people of all ages. From reducing stress and improving cognitive function to enhancing emotional and physical well-being, meditation is a practice that can significantly improve quality of life. For older adults, it provides a natural and effective way to maintain mental sharpness, emotional balance, and physical health. Whether you are young or old, a few minutes of meditation each day can lead to profound and lasting changes.
Join Inner Connections Yoga & Wellness—Pawleys Island for yoga classes where we incorporate different meditation practices to enhance your overall wellbeing. Try our 20-20-20 class that begins Wednesday, May 7th.
Spring Recipe: Grilled Mahi-Mahi with Mango-Avocado Salsa
A light, vibrant dish that captures the fresh flavors of the Caribbean with a Mexican twist—perfect for a nourishing and flavorful spring meal.
Ingredients
For the Mahi-Mahi:
2 fresh Mahi-Mahi fillets (or any firm white fish like snapper or halibut)
1 tablespoon olive oil
Juice of 1 lime
1 teaspoon ground cumin
½ teaspoon smoked paprika
½ teaspoon sea salt
¼ teaspoon black pepper
For the Mango-Avocado Salsa:
1 ripe mango, diced
1 ripe avocado, diced
½ small red onion, finely chopped
1 small jalapeño, finely chopped (optional for spice)
Juice of 1 lime
2 tablespoons fresh cilantro, chopped
½ teaspoon sea salt
1 teaspoon honey or agave nectar
Instructions
Marinate the Fish: In a small bowl, mix olive oil, lime juice, cumin, smoked paprika, salt, and black pepper. Rub over the Mahi-Mahi fillets and let sit for 10-15 minutes.
Prepare the Salsa: While the fish marinates, combine mango, avocado, red onion, jalapeño, lime juice, cilantro, salt, and honey in a bowl. Gently toss to mix and set aside.
Grill the Fish: Heat a grill pan or outdoor grill over medium-high heat. Cook Mahi-Mahi for 3-4 minutes per side, or until it flakes easily with a fork.
Serve & Enjoy: Place grilled fish on a plate and top generously with the fresh mango-avocado salsa.
Optional: Serve with a side of coconut rice or grilled plantains for an extra tropical touch!
Impermanence
My mother, Duilla Harkins, made her transition on January 5, 2025. Ever since I went to London and experienced high tea at Harrods, I have made it a point to celebrate life with tea. Over the years, my mother and I enjoyed tea together as we traveled, when we gathered with friends, at home when we were not feeling well, on special occasions like celebrating her 80th birthday, and we even talked my brothers and John into joining us at Hopsewee Plantation in Georgetown, South Carolina for afternoon tea!
Tea and its ceremony can serve to impart life lessons. Following is one of my favorite stories about a Tibetan Master and his student. As I write this, I have a cup of warm homemade chai at my side to soothe my heart and fill the longing for my mother to sit next to me.
A student searched for his teacher in the Himalayas. After extensive exploration, he located a teacher from whom he wished to learn. As was customary, the student spent many days outside the teacher’s door, sleeping in the dirt and waiting for an invitation to become a student of the Master. Many days passed by as the student waited for an invitation. He received a small amount of food and water but had no contact with the teacher. After a few weeks, the teacher opens his door and invites the student inside. The student enters the modest home and stays to learn from the Master. There are many things to learn – formal education, reading, writing, memorization, and rituals, as well as informal learning and lessons.
Being observant, the student notices that the teacher has a teacup that is always on his table, turned upside down at night. Every morning, the teacher rises, enters the kitchen and is happy to see his teacup. Now smiling, he sits down at the table, turns his teacup upright, and waits for tea.
As the student fills the Master’s cup with tea, he asks, “I see you every morning come into the kitchen, delight at seeing your teacup, turn it over, and sit and smile. Before bed, I see you enter the room and turn your teacup upside down, pause for contemplation, and leave. What is this ritual? Why do you do this?”
The Master said, “Every day when I awake and see my cup, I am delighted to know I have another day to celebrate life. I also know each day I can begin again, fresh, new, humble. Just like my cup, I have another opportunity to allow my empty mind and heart to fill with humility and openness. I invite myself to be open for new insights and experiences. Emptied and turned over from the previous night, I am ready to receive what the day will bring. When I turn my teacup right side up again, I think the happy thought, ‘I’m still here!’ This simple gesture is a wonderful reminder to celebrate every moment of the day.”
He continues, “When my work is complete, I turn my teacup upside down before bed each night as a reminder that all life is impermanent. I let go of that which filled my cup yesterday. As a Tibetan monk we learn to be comfortable with the concept of dying from an early age. It is a natural part of our world and signifies the next stage of life. Death is the transition from this to the next. In the same way the cup ritual signifies more than just the beginning and end of the day but also the beginning and end of life. Simply a transition from one to the next. Sleep is a little death, a small transition. Turning the cup over helps us to release the day. There is nothing more we can do about what has happened or what was said. It is time to transition to the next day. What is, is. There is no point in worrying about it. We cannot add to or take away anything from the cup, just like we cannot add to or take away from our life or the day.”
As I was helping plan my mother’s service and reception, we decided to include afternoon tea items for the reception (along with ice cream, a favorite of my dad’s when he was alive), where everything was diminutive and easy to eat. People stayed around to socialize and share love, light, and stories about my mother. It was beautiful. I could feel my mother in her beautiful pink suit and her golden cup, drinking her favorite tea, eating petit fours and tea sandwiches, and smiling. Cleaning up after herself with a joy-filled smile on her face, she turned over her teacup for the last time.
Duilla Harkins, June 16, 1937- January 5, 2025
Yoga Boosts Confidence and a Positive Sense of Self
Yoga at our home in CO
Yoga boosts confidence by helping you become more self-aware. Being aware of the things you cannot change, accepting who you are (just the way you are), and letting go of the things that no longer serve you is very empowering. A regular yoga practice helps you learn what you are capable of and what your limitations are so you can go out into the world with the confidence.
Body awareness: Body awareness yoga is an invaluable practice for anyone seeking to deepen their connection with their body and enhance their overall well-being. Emphasizing mindfulness and the conscious movement of the body through various poses and breathing techniques, body awareness helps practitioners tune into their physical sensations, understand their body’s needs, and recognize its limits. As we become attuned to our body, we can identify, and release areas of tension related to negative self-beliefs (for instance, slouched shoulders or clenched jaw). This process of releasing unnecessary tension while engaging muscles in an intentional way can be profoundly liberating, enhancing self-assuredness and a deep sense of presence. This heightened awareness is integral to confidence, as it allows us to be fully engaged in the moment, relieved from self-doubt and insecurity, and it can expand to other areas of our lives, allowing us to be more conscious of our strengths and abilities.
Mindfulness and positive body image: By inviting us to cultivate equanimity and to observe our thoughts and emotions without judgement, yoga helps us build self-acceptance and self-love. As we progress in our practice, acknowledging our obstacles and overcoming challenges, we develop a deeper appreciation for our body’s capabilities, break free from self-limiting beliefs and improve our body image and self-esteem on and off the mat.
Resilience and trust in the process: Yoga teaches resilience by challenging us to expand our comfort zone: sometimes we all fall out of poses, but each time we rise again, our resilience grows. This ability to face physical and mental challenges and to adapt and bounce back is an invaluable life skill, especially to perfectionists, as it proves us that setbacks are not failures, but rather opportunities for growth that train us to handle whatever comes our way with grace and trust in the future.
Join Inner Connections Yoga and Wellness to build your confidence and positive sense of Self in classes, workshops, and yoga retreats in 2025!
Winter Solstice and Yoga
Cultures around the world celebrate the winter solstice, and Indian culture is no different. In traditional Vedic astrology, the winter solstice is called Uttarayana, representing the first day of the sun’s northward journey through the sky when the light is returning. This is an auspicious time because it represents the advent of hope for the future and the universal light that shines within all living beings.
In our Winter Solstice Practice, we focus on this light. The light of the sun is deeply connected to atman or the light of the soul that lies within each of us. When we honor these different moments of the sun’s passage through the sky, we also reconnect to the light within ourselves.
Since the winter solstice is the shortest day with the shortest amount of sunlight, we harness our own inner light instead and begin to nurture our qualities of kindness, compassion, positivity, gratitude, authenticity, creativity, a sense of purpose, empathy, generosity, optimism, and the ability to inspire and uplift others—essentially reflecting a positive and radiant energy that shines from within us.
Because the winter solstice also brings us the longest night, it is often connected to the dark night of the soul, a spiritual concept that invites us to celebrate the depths of who we are, and honor that we all have parts of us that the light has yet to touch. Only out of darkness can light begin to shine.
The dark night of the soul invites us to celebrate the seeds of potential that live within us all. Some believe that when your soul came to this earth, it came equipped with everything it needed to achieve what it needed to achieve. These seeds of awareness are within you, and only by acknowledging them, nourishing them, and giving them time to grow in the darkness, will you be able to bring them into the light.
The night of the Winter Solstice can be a time for you to travel through the soil of your own soul and see what needs attention and nurturing. This is your time to go within, quiet your mind through meditation, and travel deep to the place where your body meets your soul.
By bringing these concepts into our yoga practice, we can deepen into the spiritual truth of yoga and harmonize these energies of light and dark within us.
To prepare for the Winter Solstice, try some of these awareness practices:
Reflect, Reset, and Realign
As the Winter Solstice marks the longest night of the year (and the shortest day!), the beginning of winter, and the return of light, our yoga and meditation practices provide an opportunity to pause, reflect on the past year, and to let go of things that no longer serve us or that we no longer need, to realign with our guiding principles, and to express gratitude.
Try a short yoga practice or meditation to bring you to stillness.
Write down three things you are grateful for each day for 30 days. After, continue the practice by thinking of three things you are grateful for either before you go to bed or when you awake—or both!
Think of something that no longer serves you, perhaps an old thought or belief, and practice the American mantra of Let Go. Inhale and LET into you life what you want (I am calm and relaxed as I speak in front of a group) and exhale GO-release what no longer serves you (anxiety, fear of judgment).
Align with Seasonal Energy
By practicing grounding practices like our Yoga Therapeutics I and II, breathwork, and meditation, we align with the introspective and calming energy of the season, which encourages us to become still and connect to ourselves on a deeper level.
Boost Energy and Warmth
Dynamic yoga poses increase circulation and generate warmth, countering the sluggishness and cold of winter, while invigorating both body and mind. Try our Mindful Yoga or our All-Levels classes for an energy boost!
Support Emotional Well-being
The darker days of winter can impact mood. Yoga, with its focus on breath and movement, helps reduce stress, enhance present-moment awareness, and uplift the spirit.
Celebrate Connection to Nature
Yoga during the Solstice honors nature’s cycles, helping us reconnect with the earth’s rhythms and fostering gratitude for seasonal changes. Walk the beach, read with your spine against a tree trunk, observe the migration of birds, create a sanctuary space for yourself.
Rest, reflect, unplug, nourish, and pamper!
Namaste.
Finding the Right Yoga Mat
“What’s the best yoga mat?” It is a question instructors and studio owners hear all the time. Our answer is always, “It depends.” More specifically, it depends on how you practice, what you practice, and where you practice. It is also important to consider what is important to you in cushiness, grippiness, portability, affordability, sustainability, and other qualities. Will you use your mats in a sweaty class, therapeutically, or mostly for meditation?
The mats listed are the ones John and I recognize and have used over the years that we can recommend.
Best Yoga Mat You Will Never Need to Replace: Manduka PRO
$138 at REI/$138 at Backcountry
Material: Made from certified OEKO-TEX STANDARD 100 PVC
Thickness: 6mm
Weight: 7.5 pounds (Heavy!)
Dimensions: 71 x 26 inches
There are many reasons why so many yoga teachers consider the Manduka Pro their go-to mat. The mat’s “dense cushioning,” and the no-slip dot pattern on the bottom ensures the mat does not wrinkle or slide, no matter how quickly you transition between poses. Many yoga practitioners assert that the mat supports “any type of practice” and that it adequately supports “all bodies” —which includes those with achy knees!
In terms of upkeep, the Pro does not absorb sweat, which makes it easy to clean; however, it can be a slippery experience if you sweat a lot. You can use a towel if you are taking hot yoga.
The breaking-in process for Manduka mats may take a minute but it is worth the patience required. Read the fine print on how to flatten those furled edges and tame any initial slickness.
Bonus: Manduka guarantees their mats will last a lifetime and you have many options of colors for your mat.
Best Grip Yoga Mat: Jade Harmony Mat
$92 at REI/$92 at Amazon
Material: Natural rubber
Thickness: 4.7mm
Weight: five pounds
Dimensions: 68 x 24 inches
Compared to other brands of yoga mats, Jade makes a textured surface in its Harmony mat that is extremely helpful when you tend to sweat a lot or need more grip on your mat. It delivers exactly what many of us want in a mat, which is support, grip, and cushion. Jade’s Harmony mat is considered well-constructed for being a thinner mat.
It is sturdy, appropriate for all types of yoga classes, and comes in lovely, muted colors. The textured surface, however, holds onto fuzzies, fur, and things that may blow about, and attracts lint from towels when you wipe it down. When it is dirty, take it in the shower with you or hose it down outside but it is best not to use this mat outdoors. As a side note, Jade is committed to planting a tree for each mat sold. SOLD!
Best Yoga Mat for Beginners: Gaiam Premium 5mm
$24 at Amazon/$20 at Walmart
Material: Latex-free PVC
Thickness: 5mm
Weight: 2.6 pounds (very light!)
Dimensions: 68 x 24 inches
Usually someone new to yoga seeks something that is not a splurge and helps them feel comfortable. The Premium 5mm yoga mat from longtime mat-maker Gaiam is a favorite among those new to yoga. It is attractive, comfortable, offers good support and a lifetime guarantee. It is not as cushioned or durable as other mats, yet the Premium 5mm offers an affordable mat for beginners.
Note when purchasing: There are a dizzying number of Gaiam mats labeled “Premium” with varying characteristics, colors, and designs. A smart purchase is anything with a 5mm thickness.
Best Thick Yoga Mat: Jade Yoga Fusion
$150 at REI/$150 at Amazon (expensive!)
Material: Natural rubber
Thickness: 8mm
Weight: 7.2 pounds (HEAVY!)
Dimensions: 24 x 68 inches
Getting close to 8mm in thickness may create a sensation of instability in the joints; however, people who have the Fusion mat feel that it is luxurious in that it offers premium cush that is sturdy, comfortable, and supportive.
For those of us with sore knees or uncomfortable wrists who crave more cushioning, this mat may be the one for you—it offers the comfort, support, and grip of a necessary tool for yoga practice. Like the other heavy mats, it can be a chore to haul around with you between classes and home and it may not fit into those pretty and protective yoga carriers.
Like other mats mentioned here, the textured surface picks up dust and dirt, so cleaning it regularly is necessary.
Yoga Mats to Avoid
Do not race out to buy a yoga mat priced $19 to $30 to save a few dollars. These tend to be exceptionally slippery for the student, lack cushioning, slide on the floor, and wear out quickly where you place your hands and feet. At best, most provide a little padding between you and the floor. Without exception, they cause more distraction than they are worth.
How to Choose a Yoga Mat
Shop around.
Explore Your Options. Consider what features are important to you, including mat thickness, slickness, grippiness, rollability, portability, color, and design. This mat is your sacred space to practice your yoga, and it will be with you for a long time. Knowing what matters to you most will be helpful when you do your research and make a purchase. Also, if you see a mat in class that intrigues you, approach its owner after class and ask her about it. Ask questions that are important to you and about features you want in a mat as well as how she likes the mat and her criteria when she purchased it. You will gain a lot of wisdom from those who have already purchased and practiced on their mat.
Consider Your Needs. Is it heavy for you to carry from place to place? Do have time to clean it regularly or are you better with a mat that you can quickly wipe down? Do you prefer sweaty classes or relaxing classes? Do you need a mat that is thicker to give you more support for aches and pains? What is most important to you in a mat? Does color influence your mood? What is the best length of a mat for your height?
Breathe. Take your time. Research and explore. You will find the right mat for yourself.
Namaste
Holiday Schedule
It all begins with an idea.
HOLIDAY SCHEDULE
JOIN US AT:
WINTER SOLSTICE YOGA
Saturday, December 21st, 2024
North Pawleys Island, beach access 2nd and Atlantic
9:00 am-10:30 am
$10 or FREE with a Period Project donation
celebrate the change of season with a yoga practice, meditation, and the sound of singing bowls
About the Period Project:
Established to facilitate better access to menstrual health products to individuals in need; advocate for equal and tax-free access to these essential products; and raise awareness of period poverty; supply period items and items for incontinence.
A period pack is a small bag containing a minimum of 15 products for an individual to use during the menstrual cycle. The packs serve menstruators who are housed, unhoused or under-housed, as well as schools, shelters, essentials pantries and community relief organizations on an as-needed basis.
Please bring donations of the following for youth and adults: tampons, pads, panty liners, small and medium incontinence pull-ups and bedliners. These will be distributed through Holly Cross Episcopal Church in Pawleys Island.
NEW YEAR’S DAY CELEBRATION
CHANGES TO SCHEDULE FOR HOLIDAYS
There will be no yoga classes on the following days:
Wednesday, December 25th
Friday, December 27th.
Wednesday, January 1st
Enjoy your holiday time with friends and family!